I come from a tradition of skeptics; a general family of people whose favorite phrase is “Nuh uh!” It’s not unusual for me to turn an idea from every different angle before finally accepting whatever position I take. Some people find it to be one of my most endearing qualities. Some people want to kick me really hard because of it.
But dealing in the sometimes controversial area of mood disorders and mental disorders in general, I’ve run into a whole lot of people that have taken my old skepticism about things and amped it up about 10 notches. Mood disorders in teens? “Nahhhh, doesn’t exist. Teens are just spoiled and therapists are looking to make money.” Bipolar disorder? “Nahhh. It exists, but is usually confined to an extremely small population in psych hospitals, much smaller than we’re led to believe anyway.” Medications? “Nahhhh, simple mind control by _____ (choose your boogeyman: government, medical industry, psychiatric industry, monkeys with tasers, etc.), trying to keep us all in line.”
And those are just the most obvious things. Some people will simply deny anything outside their own field of vision, even questioning the existence of things they can clearly see (could be an illusion. It’s philosophically called solipsism). After dealing with enough of these people, I now understand why some of my friends want to kick me from time to time.
I don’t bring this skepticism up to talk down about skeptics; rather, I realize that in life, there are so many constant naysayers on virtually every possible thing you can think of, that it becomes hard to know who to believe or what to do. I mean, every possible road you choose is possibly false according to a zillion people, right? And I’m a full grown adult that is control of more of his life than the average person in high school or even college. I can’t imagine the confusion that must be swirling around out there.
Skepticism is healthy, and the critics of life and the area of mood disorders more specifically, are a welcome benefit in helping us understand what we’re getting right and what we’re missing. But the question, after all is said and done is, “What do I do?” or “What do I believe?” That’s not an easy question to answer.
I can tell you, that after living on this rock for a while and after studying psych for many years there are some things that do seem to be true, regardless of how much criticism seems to come your way. These things related directly to what we talk about on Flipswitch.
1. The earlier you take charge of your health, both physically and mentally, the better off you’ll be. This means not backing down, cutting corners, or hiding from your problems. Eat all you want and whatever you want, there’s no way you’re going to fool the weight scale. Keep boozing it up all you want, but sooner or later, it’s going to take a toll on your life. Totally ignore getting good sleep, the research consistently finds that you’re putting yourself at risk for slipping into a depression or triggering a mania if you’re afflicted with bipolar disorder.
2. Being informed is always more helpful than not being informed. I’ve never run into or heard of anyone else running into information that wasn’t more helpful than not knowing the information. Sometimes painful information can hurt like finding out you’ve got diabetes, but not knowing and doing things that push that diabetes into even worse condition is a whole lot scarier. Never be afraid to learn as much as you can about your own health and the world in general.
3. Doctors are not infallible, but more often than not, they’ve got a point you should consider. I’m not saying everything that doctors say is right; rather, I’m saying that I’ve seen quite a few people that have gone from doctor to doctor only to complain that the doctors don’t know what they’re talking about. These people get hung up on the technicalities. A person I once met that had seen tons of doctors about his alcoholism comes to mind. He would complain that one doctor told him he had family issues which is why he drank, while another told him he simply had social anxiety which caused him to drink which was a problem, and yet another said he was drinking to combat loneliness and that it was a problem. He nitpicked and never faced up to the fact that, somewhere in there, they were all sort of saying very similar things. You’ve got issues, and to deal with them, you’re drinking and your drinking is causing a problem. Sure, be skeptical of doctors and their pronouncements, but maybe try to listen to them too.
4. Everything is related to everything else. This was what our first show was about. It is the defining feature in my mind about what wellness is. Sleeping too late? That’s causing you to be tired. Being too tired leads you to be cranky. Being cranky leads others to think you’re kind of mean. Other people thinking this leads to you having strained friendships at school. Strained relationships at school make you feel bad about yourself. Feeling bad about yourself makes you unable to focus fully on school work, your grades suffer, your parents get upset, so you get upset, so you got to bed late and sleep late and are cranky and on and on. And that’s just a direct line. There are not so obvious connections from one part of your life to every other. Perhaps that “you just don’t like to read” comes from the fact that you identify books with the fact that you did poorly in school which caused stress which led you to sleep late and become cranky etc etc etc. It’s ALL related. ALWAYS. Anyone that says different hasn’t searched enough.
There are more immutable truths in this world and any skeptic would be hard pressed to take issue with at least 3 out of 4 of those. And those are HUGE. So take charge of your health as soon as possible NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE TELLS YOU OTHERWISE. Wait…..you’re not being skeptical are you?!
Doh!,
Chris
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